Learning From Your Regrets"IF only

Learning From Your Regrets
"IF only I had known thenwhat I know now".How often I hear phrase replayed by those who dwell on missed opportunities and regrets.
Jane regrets dropping out of college to get married."I wish I had had a better education and had made something of myself. Now that my kids are older,I'm bored.I would`ve liked to have an important career,but it`s too late now",she laments.
Rick regrets taking the easy way out."I entered my dad`s business right after college.Financially, I`ve got no complaints.But I have a had time shaking off the feeling that I would have become someone special if only Ihad the courage to go out on my own back then."
Regrets like these can become a constant reminder of "what could have been."But it doesn`t have to be that way.Regrets can also enlighten and be an incentive for new opportunity.Here`s how that might happen:
Conquer your negative emotions.People often imagine that they would have done things differently if they had known better.Yet,the decisive factor in their
decision-making is often an emotional one,not a lack of information.Jane could sttill get her college degree, if she weren`t afraid that the commitment would be too much for her.As she reflects on her past,she recognizes that feeling overwhelmed was the same reason she dropped out of school years ago.If Jane is to learn from her regrets,she needs to deal with her fears in a different manner this time.
Use your regrets to motivate yourself to take a different action.Rick can motivate himself to do something different now, instead of simply regretting his long ago decision.Perhps,he could move the business in a new direction,start a second career,or blaze a creative trail in a completely different field.Ruing your regrets is a passive approach to life;using your regrets to make a better life for yourself is a positive and active approach.
Anticipate future regrets before you make major decisions.If Jane does decide to return to return to college,it would be helpful for her to anticipate what might make her regret this decision too.If her goal is to have a thriving career,she should choose an appropriate program.Simply taking the easiest courses (which would be her typical pattern)would likely result in her regretting her decision once again.
Use regrets to learnmore about what`s important to you.Rick imagines that he mighat have become a musician if he hadn`t gone into his dad`s business.But he conveniently ignores how music might play a role in his life now.Too often people assume that it`s too late in life to make any changes.Not true,unless you get entrenched in the position that:it should have been a certain way then so there`s nothing you can do about it now.
Many people regret decisions they`ve made or opportunities they´ve lost.But only a few make those´´woulde,coulda,shouldas´work for them.You can be one of those people!It´s never too late to use your regrets as a catalyst for revamping your life.
"Make your woulda,coulda,shouldas work for you.

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Aprendendo com seus arrependimentos"Se ao menos eu soubesse o sei agora". Quantas vezes ouvi a frase repetido por aqueles que habitam sobre oportunidades perdidas e arrependimentos.Jane lamenta largar a faculdade para se casar." Eu gostaria que tivesse tido uma educação melhor e tinha feito algo de mim. Agora que meus filhos são mais velhos, eu estou entediado. Eu gostaria de ter uma carreira importante, mas é tarde demais agora", ela lamenta.Rick lamenta tirando o caminho mais fácil." Eu entrei o negócio do meu pai logo depois da faculdade. Financeiramente, não tenho nenhuma reclamação. Mas eu tenho um tiveram tempo de sacudir a sensação de que eu me tornaria alguém especial se apenas tive a coragem de sair sozinha naquela época. "Lamenta como estas podem se tornar uma lembrança constante do "o que poderia ter sido." Mas não precisa ser assim. Arrependimentos também podem iluminar e ser um incentivo para nova oportunidade. Aqui está como isso pode acontecer: Conquiste suas emoções negativas. As pessoas muitas vezes imaginam que eles teria feito as coisas de forma diferente se soubessem melhor. No entanto, o fator decisivo na suatomada de decisão é muitas vezes um caso emocional, não uma falta de informação. Jane poderia sttill obter seu diploma universitário, se ela não tinha medo de que o compromisso seria demais para ela. Como ela reflete sobre o passado dela, ela reconhece que o sentimento oprimido foi pela mesma razão, ela saiu da escola anos atrás. Se Jane é aprender com desculpas, ela precisa lidar com seus medos de uma forma diferente desta vez. Use your regrets to motivate yourself to take a different action.Rick can motivate himself to do something different now, instead of simply regretting his long ago decision.Perhps,he could move the business in a new direction,start a second career,or blaze a creative trail in a completely different field.Ruing your regrets is a passive approach to life;using your regrets to make a better life for yourself is a positive and active approach. Anticipate future regrets before you make major decisions.If Jane does decide to return to return to college,it would be helpful for her to anticipate what might make her regret this decision too.If her goal is to have a thriving career,she should choose an appropriate program.Simply taking the easiest courses (which would be her typical pattern)would likely result in her regretting her decision once again. Use regrets to learnmore about what`s important to you.Rick imagines that he mighat have become a musician if he hadn`t gone into his dad`s business.But he conveniently ignores how music might play a role in his life now.Too often people assume that it`s too late in life to make any changes.Not true,unless you get entrenched in the position that:it should have been a certain way then so there`s nothing you can do about it now. Many people regret decisions they`ve made or opportunities they´ve lost.But only a few make those´´woulde,coulda,shouldas´work for them.You can be one of those people!It´s never too late to use your regrets as a catalyst for revamping your life. "Faça seu teria, poderia ter, shouldas trabalho para você.